I noticed that Don starting this site back in 2007, more than six years ago. Since many of us have benefited from LDS Sexuality, I thought it might be good for each of us to say thanks to Don and to say something about how participation in this site has been of help in our marriages.
For me the greatest impact was to realize that my continual angst over the lack of married sex was not because I was perverted, not converted, unspiritual, or immature, but because sex is an important part of marriage that I was missing. I finally comprehended that I was actually OK, but also that my marriage was disappointing and weakened because my wife and I had never been able to make sex work for us instead of against us. Reading here (and also the "sexless marriage" thread in the Experience Project website), helped me determine that tackling this problem was not only possible, but that success would benefit both me and my wife. In other words, married sex is not a win/lose proposition, where one gets satisfaction at the expense of the other, but a WIN/WIN/WIN for husband/wife/marriage. After taking some positive steps to state what I wanted and why, my DW had the courage to try, and that has made all the difference. Five years later we are both different people and our marriage is transformed. We have created an atmosphere of intimacy that makes kisses, carresses, fondling, hugging etc. possible any time of the day, and sex a possibility any night or morning. I honestly believe she now gets more from sex than I do. What could be better?!!!!