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Saying thanks to Don; why LDS sexuality has helped me

PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 2:30 pm
by EverBetter
I noticed that Don starting this site back in 2007, more than six years ago. Since many of us have benefited from LDS Sexuality, I thought it might be good for each of us to say thanks to Don and to say something about how participation in this site has been of help in our marriages.

For me the greatest impact was to realize that my continual angst over the lack of married sex was not because I was perverted, not converted, unspiritual, or immature, but because sex is an important part of marriage that I was missing. I finally comprehended that I was actually OK, but also that my marriage was disappointing and weakened because my wife and I had never been able to make sex work for us instead of against us. Reading here (and also the "sexless marriage" thread in the Experience Project website), helped me determine that tackling this problem was not only possible, but that success would benefit both me and my wife. In other words, married sex is not a win/lose proposition, where one gets satisfaction at the expense of the other, but a WIN/WIN/WIN for husband/wife/marriage. After taking some positive steps to state what I wanted and why, my DW had the courage to try, and that has made all the difference. Five years later we are both different people and our marriage is transformed. We have created an atmosphere of intimacy that makes kisses, carresses, fondling, hugging etc. possible any time of the day, and sex a possibility any night or morning. I honestly believe she now gets more from sex than I do. What could be better?!!!!

Re: Saying thanks to Don; why LDS sexuality has helped me

PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 4:38 pm
by JustGettingBy
I would second that. I have not had a turnaround in my marriage, but something is about to change in my marriage. This site has helped my mental state quite a bit.

I would be willing to donate to Don if he will pm me. I know hosting a web site isn't free.

Thanks again Don!

Re: Saying thanks to Don; why LDS sexuality has helped me

PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 7:23 pm
by Kiss
Is Don still around?

Did don start it cos of problems in his marriage?

I found this site, via lovey, who recommended it when I was on Laura's site.
Not a big forum girl ( other than on a house building site and years ago a moving to nz site where I would give my $4.56 worth of knowledge)
So I didn't come cos I had issues, ( other than his ADHD, autism and temper, but other than that, the shagging was ok)
But it has been a real eye opener to see couples really struggling.
After reading Laura's book I didn't know so many lds carried the ggs into marriage.
Sad....

I look at my branch now and think...are you even hugging let alone touching things inside her!??

It must be a world wide problem, in and out of the church , but in especially.
It has been great though to read when things start to ' turn'
So keep sharing, cos sharing is caring, and it' nIce to know other lds think about sex!! That was an eye opener!!
Yay :lol:

Re: Saying thanks to Don; why LDS sexuality has helped me

PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 2:33 pm
by Mrs J
I'd have to say that my eyes were opened quite a bit as a result of this site. For that alone I am thankful, because it made me more aware. Additionally, DH and I have read the topics together, and it has probably helped us in our journey toward sexual unity.

PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 11:57 pm
by mariabronn
What one idea did you hold before coming here that you have discarded or radically changed through interaction here?

Re: Saying thanks to Don; why LDS sexuality has helped me

PostPosted: Wed Oct 23, 2013 3:27 am
by Jgtrs
Thanks, Don. This forum helped me tremendously during a time when my wife was repressed sexually. It was nice to hear I was not alone in my angst, anxiety, and frustration. Things changed dramatically for me and marriage sexuality improved literally more than I ever dreamed possible, but I stayed on to add input, impressions, opinions, and hopefully encouragement to those who are where I once was.

For quite some time this forum was a lifeline for me. I appreciated it very much.

Re: Saying thanks to Don; why LDS sexuality has helped me

PostPosted: Wed Oct 23, 2013 4:18 am
by OkieDokie
Well, being here has not changed my sexuality any,( still male), nor frequency ( still zero), nor amplitude ( still ....)
However, I have been able to loosen up a bit. And it has been sometime since HDM asked me to move on And that I had no place here. KSS and I share the same streets and highways from time to time. She might have been at the hotel I stayed in a few weeks ago for my 16 hours of seminars. There was a wedding down the hall maybe she was there. I doubt she was the woman I had dinner with on Saturday. But.... Maybe she was incognito as she drank her wine and ate her salad.

Two posters know what I look like by photo. I know what one looks like by photo, one poster discovered (maybe others)my full name, address, phone number, and has google earthed my farm and seen my hermitage and barn and pond and well house and the rest of the farm land from space. Maybe even the oil well I receive royalties from just east of me. I know the name, location / address of one poster maybe I will visit it also in the future.

I suspect DON , the originator, while not posting as Don, posts as someone else.. But that is just a guess.

All in all I think I have changed my perspective a bit. I have not thought of taking a long walk on a short pier in some time.
And I am not the only person in the world with problems. We just have different problems. And have learned that LDS are not as near happy as I was led to believe when I became LDS. Perhaps I fit in better as LDS than I thought.

And visiting New Zealand has been placed higher on my bucket list than Australia. That might be good might be bad since I have never been to either. Palau and Truk and Tahiti is a close as I have been. And those are not that close ( but a lot closer than Oklahoma is)

I am sure I have plenty of posters that would like to see me leave, I for one would , but I have become addicted to reading of others problems ..makes me feel not as pathetic as I thought. Reading of others problems is kind of like taking an aspirin for mine

Re: Saying thanks to Don; why LDS sexuality has helped me

PostPosted: Wed Oct 23, 2013 5:27 am
by Kiss
OkieDokie wrote:
And visiting New Zealand has been placed higher on my bucket list than Australia.

And so it should be.

Nz is ready for you :lol:

Re: Saying thanks to Don; why LDS sexuality has helped me

PostPosted: Wed Oct 23, 2013 6:00 am
by OkieDokie
NZ is still below Grainola, ok :lol:

Re: Saying thanks to Don; why LDS sexuality has helped me

PostPosted: Wed Oct 23, 2013 6:59 am
by Kiss
Nothing beats that or whizzbang
You win there, hands down.