What Counts as Initiating Sex?

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What constitutes initiating sex?

Mentioning earlier in the day that you would like to have sex.
A deep passionate kiss upon reuniting at the end of a work day.
A meaningful look in the eyes right before you get in bed.
Overt undressing or putting on sexy lingerie.
Getting out equipment such as lube, toys etc. while spouse watches.
Getting out equipment before spouse enters the room.
Suggestive touches throughout the day.
Openly requesting sex.
Vaguely requesting sex.
Getting on top of spouse as soon as you're in bed.
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What Counts as Initiating Sex?

Postby Mrs J » Tue Aug 26, 2014 2:24 pm

Work with me on this, as it is just an idea I'm trying to flesh out. What constitutes initiating sex? I'm going to try to create a poll to answer this question. Have fun.
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Re: What Counts as Initiating Sex?

Postby LatterDay Marriage » Tue Aug 26, 2014 2:32 pm

Kissing and touching happen often enough that it doesn't stand out as initiating sex to me. We do that even when we know there won't be sex.
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Re: What Counts as Initiating Sex?

Postby UFan » Tue Aug 26, 2014 3:14 pm

I would think that anything you do with the intention of the end result being sex.
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Re: What Counts as Initiating Sex?

Postby belladona » Tue Aug 26, 2014 8:15 pm

I have "discussions", and by discussions I mean arguments, about this with my husband quite a bit. To me any sign from him that he wants me (because let's face it, I'm almost always up for it, even when I don't feel like it) is him initiating it.
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Re: What Counts as Initiating Sex?

Postby cemm1 » Sat Sep 20, 2014 12:12 pm

Eyebrow wiggling. Definitely eyebrow wiggling. :lol:

No, in all seriousness, I initiate sex about 75% of the time. And it's usually a look, a glance, or some saucy remark. (I can make anything sound dirty)

When wifey initiates, she's much more direct. For her it's a phrase, or a grab. She's more private about it, but much more aggressive. I'm more open about it, but much more suggestive.

And, because we grew up watching "Friends", every now and then, we'll just quote the episode where Phoebe messes with Chandler after she finds out Chandler and Monica are sleeping together (The Once Where Everybody Finds Out). She'll say "Do you want to have "the sex?" We can have "the sex" because "I'm very bendy." Too funny. Sexual initiation is way more fun, in my opinion, when it's playful and spontaneous.
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Re: What Counts as Initiating Sex?

Postby Jgtrs » Sat Sep 20, 2014 12:49 pm

I'm still chuckling about Mrs. J "fleshing out" this idea.

Does that count as initiating? :)
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Re: What Counts as Initiating Sex?

Postby be64 » Sat Sep 20, 2014 4:54 pm

I chose all of them.
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