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Clitoris & Newlyweds

PostPosted: Tue Dec 24, 2013 11:03 am
by BruceWayne
EDIT 12/31/13: Please don't JUST vote, please add comments as well, to explain your experience, and how you learned about it!!
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OK, I was reading this article in the Sunstone magazine entitled When Virgins Collide . . . A very good read, I recommend it.

So that got me wondering how many people had knowledge of the Clitoris (and its importance for reaching female orgasm) PRIOR to their wedding day?
I think this is essential knowledge, and that newlyweds can't be expected that they will just stumble upon it by accident! It must be passed on from successfully married couples to engaged couples prior to their wedding nights!

I would like to see more than just poll responses . . . Please feel free to share your story of how you came upon your knowledge of the Clitoris, and when, and from what source, and how it changed your sexual relationship.

Re: Clitoris & Newlyweds

PostPosted: Tue Dec 24, 2013 11:14 am
by BruceWayne
I should start out with MY story:

Before my wife and I wed, we read the book The Act of Marriage, a great source of information for those that are unaware of the sexual act and the details that need to be considered. We had a long engagement. Some time after we had found out all this information from the book, my father had a sit-down with me where he told me about the clitoris and the female anatomy, so that was good that he did that. I don't know if many parents do that.
If we had just left it to chance that "we would figure it out" on our wedding night, that would have been a disaster. There are so many things that I thought were counter-intuitive (like having jelly/lube on hand, etc.), and at the time* I was not really interested in the "below the belt" female anatomy (I'm more of a Breast-Man), and so, I doubt I would have ever stumbled upon the Clitoris, if I didn't know to look for it, and stimulate her there with my fingers.

*I have since become more interested in her "down there" and have begun to enjoy pleasuring her orally.

(Note to Moderators: Is this too graphic for the Moderated Version? If so feel free to move the whole Poll/Thread to the Un-Moderated section!)

Re: Clitoris & Newlyweds

PostPosted: Wed Dec 25, 2013 12:19 am
by mariabronn
It's just fine, Batman! Keep posting.

Re: Clitoris & Newlyweds

PostPosted: Wed Dec 25, 2013 6:00 pm
by cmfray
I wasn't sure how to answer this. I answered - no - we found out from books after. Before we were married, I knew from masturbation how to how orgasms from stimulating the clitoris, but I did not know what the clitoris was or its name, or that it was the main source for orgasms in women. My husband also was not aware of that fact. After getting married we placed most of the focus on intercourse and occasional touching of the clitoris. I could not figure out what was wrong with me - why intercourse did very little for me and never resulted in orgasms. It was years after we were married when I read some books on physical intimacy and learned about female anatomy and about the clitoris. However by this point the GGS was in full swing and I connected having orgasms through clitoral stimulation with the sinful habit of masturbation. I could not really understand why my rubbing it was sinful and hubby rubbing it was not. This conflict caused a sort of disconnect in wanting to have orgasms because of the guilty feelings that occurred on the rare occasions when I had them.

Re: Clitoris & Newlyweds

PostPosted: Wed Dec 25, 2013 6:10 pm
by mariabronn
Isn't it nice now that you have grown up and beyond those misconceptions?

Re: Clitoris & Newlyweds

PostPosted: Sat Dec 28, 2013 3:57 am
by Momgyver
At a very young age I knew that rubbing my clitoris made me feel really good even though I didn't know what it was called. As a teenager in the 60's, I masturbated often and discovered orgasm using a wondrous new invention, the electric toothbrush. :o I got married at age 18 and we were very enthusiastic and prolific in our lovemaking. We experimented a lot with different positions and both manual and oral stimulation. Being young, fit, and venturesome helped to compensate for our lack of knowledge. We read books too, including one with Kama Sutra drawings, which were fun to try. It wasn't long before we figured out what worked for us.

Re: Clitoris & Newlyweds

PostPosted: Sat Dec 28, 2013 10:38 am
by mariabronn
Beautiful

Re: Clitoris & Newlyweds

PostPosted: Sat Dec 28, 2013 4:25 pm
by OkieDokie
The dentist always said to brush with a soft toothbrush not a firm or extra firm.

I had no idea you could have an orgasm by brushing your teeth. Oh well ... Live and learn I guess.

Re: Clitoris & Newlyweds

PostPosted: Mon Dec 30, 2013 4:28 pm
by BruceWayne
Momgyver wrote:At a very young age I knew that rubbing my clitoris made me feel really good even though I didn't know what it was called. As a teenager in the 60's, I masturbated often and discovered orgasm using a wondrous new invention, the electric toothbrush. :o I got married at age 18 and we were very enthusiastic and prolific in our lovemaking. We experimented a lot with different positions and both manual and oral stimulation. Being young, fit, and venturesome helped to compensate for our lack of knowledge. We read books too, including one with Kama Sutra drawings, which were fun to try. It wasn't long before we figured out what worked for us.


Momgyver, thanks for sharing!
I can just imagine a scene from your house in your teens:
Bathroom door closed & locked. <knock, knock, knock> "Mom, I'll be out in a minute, I'm … brushing … my … teeth! OOoohhh! … OK, I'm done now."

Re: Clitoris & Newlyweds

PostPosted: Tue Dec 31, 2013 8:49 am
by mariabronn
You crack me up, caped crusader! I can imagine being the mirror in mom's bathroom. Or better yet, being the power brush.