What do you consider okay? Part 1

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What activities do you consider okay within an LDS marriage?

Yes, to oral sex
179
21%
No, to oral sex
2
0%
Yes, to the use of porn together
62
7%
No, to the use of porn together
109
13%
Yes, to private photos and/or videos of each other
157
18%
No, to private photos and/or videos of each other
16
2%
Yes, to solo masturbation (with spouses's consent)
130
15%
No, to solo masturbation (even with spouses's consent)
31
4%
Yes, to mutual masturbation (watching each other masturbate)
169
20%
No, to mutual masturbation (watching each other masturbate)
11
1%
 
Total votes : 866

Re: What do you consider okay? Part 1

Postby Ofy53 » Fri Aug 24, 2012 12:10 pm

It is fun to see the results of some of these polls, after a lot more people have taken part! If you haven't participated in some of these polls, please share your attitudes about LDS Sexuality.
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Re: What do you consider okay? Part 1

Postby Allison » Sat Aug 25, 2012 12:28 am

It's sad what boys in the Church have to go through. I've never been asked if I masturbate. People probably assumed I didn't even consider it. I did it...daily. Have since I was young. It's always been great. There are good reasons to be monogamous in our sexual relationships...if giving yourself pleasure is inherently evil, maybe we should give up ice cream and back rubs too.
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Re: What do you consider okay? Part 1

Postby lifelover » Sat Aug 25, 2012 12:54 am

Amen to that!
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Re: What do you consider okay? Part 1

Postby mariabronn » Sat Aug 25, 2012 10:01 am

Allison wrote:It's sad what boys in the Church have to go through. I've never been asked if I masturbate. People probably assumed I didn't even consider it. I did it...daily. Have since I was young. It's always been great. There are good reasons to be monogamous in our sexual relationships...if giving yourself pleasure is inherently evil, maybe we should give up ice cream and back rubs too.


Back rubbing is the gateway physical contact and can ONLY lead to more grievous sins of the flesh such as foot rubs et al. And we all know the evils of iceman consumption, ie athero sclerosis heart attacks etc.

I have done it nearly every day for the last 40 years and it's been great every time!
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Re: What do you consider okay? Part 1

Postby justcurious2 » Sat Aug 25, 2012 11:11 am

sanchiro wrote:
Allison wrote:It's sad what boys in the Church have to go through. I've never been asked if I masturbate. People probably assumed I didn't even consider it. I did it...daily. Have since I was young. It's always been great. There are good reasons to be monogamous in our sexual relationships...if giving yourself pleasure is inherently evil, maybe we should give up ice cream and back rubs too.


Back rubbing is the gateway physical contact and can ONLY lead to more grievous sins of the flesh such as foot rubs et al. And we all know the evils of iceman consumption, ie athero sclerosis heart attacks etc.

I have done it nearly every day for the last 40 years and it's been great every time!



This made me laugh because there was an old saying at BYU-Idaho back in the day "back rubs in the front room lead to front rubs in the back room". Hubby thinks it's hilarious to ask me for a back rub when we are in the front room then give me a sly look and say should we take it to the back room?? Sorry that was off topic but struck me as funny.
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Re: What do you consider okay? Part 1

Postby mariabronn » Sat Aug 25, 2012 12:53 pm

justcurious2 wrote:
sanchiro wrote:
Allison wrote:It's sad what boys in the Church have to go through. I've never been asked if I masturbate. People probably assumed I didn't even consider it. I did it...daily. Have since I was young. It's always been great. There are good reasons to be monogamous in our sexual relationships...if giving yourself pleasure is inherently evil, maybe we should give up ice cream and back rubs too.


Back rubbing is the gateway physical contact and can ONLY lead to more grievous sins of the flesh such as foot rubs et al. And we all know the evils of iceman consumption, ie athero sclerosis heart attacks etc.

I have done it nearly every day for the last 40 years and it's been great every time!



This made me laugh because there was an old saying at BYU-Idaho back in the day "back rubs in the front room lead to front rubs in the back room". Hubby thinks it's hilarious to ask me for a back rub when we are in the front room then give me a sly look and say should we take it to the back room?? Sorry that was off topic but struck me as funny.


I LOVE those backroom backrubs.....always are the Best.

Glad we could help you laugh, JustCurious!
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Re: What do you consider okay? Part 1

Postby mariabronn » Sat Aug 25, 2012 1:12 pm

from Zookie: >> Is masturbation a heinous sin? In my mind I highly doubt it. I, personally, would rank it right up there with speeding.
Anyway, I'm certainly not going to counsel anyone in the matter. It's not up to me. I'm not in a position of sexual frustration and it's not a sin I'm tempted with. Hence my rambling post.

I have to say that it likely depends on how fast (speeding) you are masturbating, as to whether it's a sin and how grievous or heinous. I suppose if you do it too fast and get a blister or skin abrasion then that would be painful, or if masturbating too frequently.

Your mileage may vary!
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Re: What do you consider okay? Part 1

Postby mariabronn » Sun Aug 26, 2012 8:33 am

zookie wrote:
zookie wrote:Yes to oral sex
No to porn
Yes to your own porn of each other (if you are into that)
Yes to mutual masturbation
No to solo masturbation


After lots of time on this board and hearing what everyone has to say about it, I've changed my opinion completely about solo masturbation. I now think it's completely okay to do, married or otherwise, as long as it doesn't become compulsive and get in the way of your real relationship with your spouse.

What do you guys think of that ha ha!


What one idea (if it can be distilled down to just one) or comment had created your 180 turnabout on solo masturbation? I have always been fine with it as long as it is reasonable.
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Re: What do you consider okay? Part 1

Postby be64 » Thu Apr 02, 2015 4:39 pm

I voted yes on all of them but that doesn't mean I would do them because my wife would vote no on most of them.
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Re: What do you consider okay? Part 1

Postby Bryan_LDS_husband » Thu Apr 02, 2015 5:00 pm

I said yes to everything. Have done and continue to do everything but porn. I don't care for it alone, and while I think it would be fun to watch together, she doesn't care to.
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