When is lube needed ladies??

[UtahAl]

We generally only use lube for intercourse. And only then if we are doing a quickie.

[erwin007]

Lube required every time there is penetration with the penis, and sometimes if I’m internally fingering her. We’ve tried without and it never works. Our standard encounter almost always includes me fingering her to at least 2-3 orgasms before attempting PIV sex, so I know she is plenty turned on. I’m also on the larger side, so even after she’s had a few orgasms it won’t go in without a little help. At different times of the month she’s wet enough to not need lube for G spot stimulation, and other times of the month it’s needed. We use either coconut oil if we aren’t using condoms, or Astroglide if we are.

[terribear]

My wife hates using lube, but sometimes when we're both a little dehydrated we need it. Otherwise either one of us provides enough for both.

[jjp]

Answering for my wife: for the last 10 years, never. Early in marriage, most of the time we’d use plenty of lube—she’d need it. We now have sex about once a month and take our time and have lots of foreplay. I go down on her before intercourse and she is wet and aroused and has usually experienced an orgasm before any penis in vagina. It’s a bummer not to have sex more frequently, but when we do, she’s into it and it’s awesome. I’ve always been the higher desire spouse. Early in marriage she’d acquiesce 2 or 3 times a week and would do it for me. She’d be in a hurry and say “don’t worry about me.” After a number of years of too much unsatisfying pity sex, we compromised on monthly-ish great sex and I’m encouraged to masturbate all I wish between. So she doesn’t need lube anymore. I go through quite a bit wanking. For beginners, taking time and really sweetly, patiently working on the wife’s pleasure AND communicating well go a long way toward lubricating the female anatomy. I know everyone’s body is different and I think aging brings on more potential dryness, but the need for lube is at least somewhat diminished by a woman being highly aroused.