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If you served a full-time mission, how often (if at all) did you masturbate while on yours?

Never
23
23%
Once or twice
14
14%
3 to 5 times
6
6%
5 to 10 times
5
5%
10 to 25 times
4
4%
About once a month
9
9%
About twice a month
11
11%
Weekly
18
18%
So many times I can't remember or count
8
8%
 
Total votes : 98

Mormons, Missionaries, and Masturbation

Postby ILMW » Tue Nov 10, 2015 8:44 pm

Did you serve a full-time mission? Was masturbation an issue for you? If yes, how did you deal with it?
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Re: Mormons, Missionaries, and Masturbation

Postby Big D » Tue Nov 10, 2015 11:48 pm

Yes. I masturbated about every other month or when I was so horny I couldn't take it. All I had to do was barely stroke my penis or the area behind my scrotum and I would go like a hair trigger......a lot of cum! I always felt guilty and would end up telling my mission president. He would just tell me to read the scriptures more and continue on with the work like it wasn't that big of a deal. I think more elders masturbate than not. I also had the occasional wet dream, which was a huge welcome!
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Re: Mormons, Missionaries, and Masturbation

Postby Coriander » Wed Nov 11, 2015 12:23 am

Involuntarily - while half-awake, and I always felt terribly guilty about it. My companions and I sometimes joked about getting wet dreams - I remember in one area I got two in one night. I didn't feel any shame about that, but often at night I would wake up finding that my hands had found their way there and were helping things along. I even tried the fabled cure of going to sleep holding a copy of the Book of Mormon. Didn't work. I worried about my companion hearing or seeing what had gone on.

It cast a cloud of guilt over a large part of my mission. At times I would talk about it to the mission president, who never seemed very concerned about it. He showed more disappointment when I and a companion drove a member's car without authorization. At the end, during my final interview, I told him I was worried about going back into the world because I had had so many lustful thoughts before. He said "Try to forget that."
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Re: Mormons, Missionaries, and Masturbation

Postby Jgtrs » Wed Nov 11, 2015 12:58 am

I remember becoming about half awake at the beginning of a wet dream and then helping it along then feeling very guilty about it and confessing to my mission pres. Later, I felt stupid for confessing that and now I don't really consider that masturbation.
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Re: Mormons, Missionaries, and Masturbation

Postby be64 » Wed Nov 11, 2015 3:09 am

I have said here before that in my younger days I could have an orgasm just from tensing my abdomen while exercising. Well, one morning late in my mission I was doing sit-ups and when I felt an orgasm coming on, rather than stopping what I was doing I continued and allowed it to happen. I felt guilty about this and told the mission president about it. He was a new mission president who had only arrived about a month earlier, and I didn't know him well. He sternly warned me that I should not allow that to happen again. I felt stupid later for even bring it up since nobody understands what you are talking about when you tell them that you were exercising and had an orgasm/ejaculation.

When I look back on it now I think it's very hard to say something is sinful when it happens spontaneously while exercising.

I think that if all it takes to have an orgasm is to sit up a few times in a row or climb a rope or do a few push-ups, then ejaculation must be a very normal and natural thing that can't necessarily be limited only to wet dreams and marriage.
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Re: Mormons, Missionaries, and Masturbation

Postby jjp » Wed Nov 11, 2015 6:51 pm

I did once on my mission. I felt incredibly guilty & called my mission president to confess. I was in a geographically huge mission and was a thousand miles away from mission office. I couldn't live with it (the gravity of my sin for the 2 or 3 months until a mission conference). He was very understanding & reassuring. I honestly expected to be sent home. Normally I had nocturnal emissions very regularly (which I would sleep through),& just wake up soaked and void of built up sexual tension. But, for whatever reason, I guess I couldn't sleep deeply enough to have an innocent release in that area. The pressure built up (literal, physical pressure) enough that it was a huge distraction, source of physical pain and discouragement & guilt for being in a state of physical arousal or semi-arousal for a period of a couple of weeks. I was not looking at porn, or fantasizing about anything sexual, but felt like I was dying for a release. I was immersed in missionary life, working hard, being obedient etc. and without really thinking about it, I fired one off in the shower. It was such a source of guilt!

I have a testimony of nocturnal emissions! I worked hard & stayed out of trouble and avoided masturbation throughout my mission except for 1 slip-up and for a couple years before I married with another slip-up or two. I credit it to going to bed dog-tired from working hard and sleeping through frequent nocturnal emissions. I almost never was conscious of an erotic dream. Tossing & turning in my sleep was enough to empty the little factory without even knowing it until morning. Unfortunately sometimes it took nocturnal emissions were a little less frequent and this meant irritability, insomnia and difficulty concentrating. In these cases, I wish there could be "prescribed, pron-free masturbation" without guilt. It's a lot easier to do your homework, home teaching, fulfill your calling, work a part-time job when you can sleep and think straight.

I wish there were more of a bridge between the understanding, mild way most priesthood leaders seem to approach confessions of masturbation when a young person is trying to be chaste and avoiding temptation (pornography etc) and the AWFUL guilt I felt conflating masturbation with graver things--"sin next to murder." I honestly expected to be sent home from the MTC when I confessed that I had months earlier but had quit 100%. Then after being 100% free of this sin for 18 months, I confessed anew and felt like a total failure--surely to be sent home and any shot at exaltation almost totally out of reach. I think the message is changing over time. I know not everyone struggled with this, but I think a lot of us endured a lot of guilt & sleepless nights that HF, Jesus and the leaders would not want to inflict.
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Re: Mormons, Missionaries, and Masturbation

Postby be64 » Wed Nov 11, 2015 11:08 pm

jjp wrote:I did once on my mission. I felt incredibly guilty & called my mission president to confess. I was in a geographically huge mission and was a thousand miles away from mission office. I couldn't live with it (the gravity of my sin for the 2 or 3 months until a mission conference). He was very understanding & reassuring. I honestly expected to be sent home. Normally I had nocturnal emissions very regularly (which I would sleep through),& just wake up soaked and void of built up sexual tension. But, for whatever reason, I guess I couldn't sleep deeply enough to have an innocent release in that area. The pressure built up (literal, physical pressure) enough that it was a huge distraction, source of physical pain and discouragement & guilt for being in a state of physical arousal or semi-arousal for a period of a couple of weeks. I was not looking at porn, or fantasizing about anything sexual, but felt like I was dying for a release. I was immersed in missionary life, working hard, being obedient etc. and without really thinking about it, I fired one off in the shower. It was such a source of guilt!

I have a testimony of nocturnal emissions! I worked hard & stayed out of trouble and avoided masturbation throughout my mission except for 1 slip-up and for a couple years before I married with another slip-up or two. I credit it to going to bed dog-tired from working hard and sleeping through frequent nocturnal emissions. I almost never was conscious of an erotic dream. Tossing & turning in my sleep was enough to empty the little factory without even knowing it until morning. Unfortunately sometimes it took nocturnal emissions were a little less frequent and this meant irritability, insomnia and difficulty concentrating. In these cases, I wish there could be "prescribed, pron-free masturbation" without guilt. It's a lot easier to do your homework, home teaching, fulfill your calling, work a part-time job when you can sleep and think straight.

I wish there were more of a bridge between the understanding, mild way most priesthood leaders seem to approach confessions of masturbation when a young person is trying to be chaste and avoiding temptation (pornography etc) and the AWFUL guilt I felt conflating masturbation with graver things--"sin next to murder." I honestly expected to be sent home from the MTC when I confessed that I had months earlier but had quit 100%. Then after being 100% free of this sin for 18 months, I confessed anew and felt like a total failure--surely to be sent home and any shot at exaltation almost totally out of reach. I think the message is changing over time. I know not everyone struggled with this, but I think a lot of us endured a lot of guilt & sleepless nights that HF, Jesus and the leaders would not want to inflict.


Your masturbation experience and guilt is a close match to my experience.
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Re: Mormons, Missionaries, and Masturbation

Postby be64 » Thu Nov 12, 2015 1:02 am

While on my mission in Brazil there was an elder from Brazil who for whatever reason had the problem of spontenanous ejaculation when seeing a hot woman. I'm not certain of the chain of events and why things were done as they were, but this elder was put in a mental hospital where my companion and I were asked by the mission president to visit him. It was a horrible place filled with crazy people. Apparently he was not "cured" there because shortly after he was sent home. I'm glad I was not sent to a mental hospital for spontaneously ejaculating during exercise. The handling of the situation of this elder still creeps me out.

There were also two missionaries who were companions that were excommunicated and sent home for leaving their area and committing sexual sin. I can't remember though if it was heterosexual or homosexual sex.
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Re: Mormons, Missionaries, and Masturbation

Postby BBoy » Thu Nov 12, 2015 11:29 am

Well, I guess I win the prize for being the most frequent Masturbating Elder; I put weekly!

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Re: Mormons, Missionaries, and Masturbation

Postby Coriander » Thu Nov 12, 2015 11:47 pm

be64 wrote:While on my mission in Brazil there was an elder from Brazil who for whatever reason had the problem of spontenanous ejaculation when seeing a hot woman. I'm not certain of the chain of events and why things were done as they were, but this elder was put in a mental hospital where my companion and I were asked by the mission president to visit him. It was a horrible place filled with crazy people. Apparently he was not "cured" there because shortly after he was sent home. I'm glad I was not sent to a mental hospital for spontaneously ejaculating during exercise. The handling of the situation of this elder still creeps me out.


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I think it was in The Lucifer Effect by Philip Zimbardo where the author mentioned an experiment where some people pretended to be insane, or just checked themselves into a mental hospital and then even when they revealed that the whole thing had been an experiment they couldn't get released.
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