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Poll Results: LDS Pornography Use

Postby Mastodon » Sat Jan 31, 2009 7:13 pm

The current results to the Pornography poll are listed below. I recognize its not a huge sample of responses, but it does reveal some interesting patterns. I'm curious to hear what patterns you see and whether you think it is representative of the church at large. (I suspect that the members of this forum would be more prone to porn use, but that it represents a much larger segment of the church than we would like to believe.) What was interesting to me as I've watched the responses come in, is that the patterns generally remain the same (i.e. same levels of porn use, same exposure, same sources, etc.) The variability comes in the acceptance of porn within a marriage.

What was eye opening to me was the number of active LDS men in the survey that occasionally use porn, but have a strong desire to stop, and in many cases find that very difficult to do. We set up a private group in this forum for men to discuss those issues and find support to overcome the attraction. It's a private group so people can be free to discuss sensitive issues and get feedback and support in a friendly and supportive atmosphere. If you have an occasional porn use habit, or you know someone that does, send us a PM or join the group in your user control panel. Also, if you've been able to overcome the habit, we'd love to have your input on what worked for you. A lot of men that have this attraction to pornography find it very difficult to admit to it (even to themselves, let alone a spouse, a bishop, or a private forum), but discussing it is one of the best ways to get over it.

If you haven't had a chance to take the survey you can do so here: Click here to take the survey (NOTE: Right-click and open the survey in a new window....it does not return you to this page when you are finished.)
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Re: Poll: Pornography Use Results Update

Postby Mastodon » Thu Feb 19, 2009 9:14 pm

Below are the most recent results from the porn survey. We continue to get a few more responses each week, so I'll continue to post updates. If you haven't had a chance to take the anonymous survey, you can do so here (NOTE: Right-click and open the survey in a new window....it does not return you to this page when you are finished.).

One of the most striking things to me about the survey results is the number of guys that seemingly have a serious problem or attraction to porn---and nearly 100% (except admittedly MikeUtah ;) ) are active LDS men. All seem to want to make a change, and a significant number of them don't think they can do it alone and need help. If you are one of those guys, here's your chance to start in a new direction! There is a private forum on the main board index called the Pornography Help Group. We've had some really great discussions there over the past few weeks and it seems to be making a big difference for a lot of guys. Come try it out and see if it can help you (at the very least, it couldn't hurt, right?) Just send me or Max a private message to be added to the group so you're given group privileges to view the full forum and all of the posts, or follow the instructions in public section on the main index page to request to join. I think you'd be surprised that your situation isn't that unique and you can learn a lot from others who have had the same or similar experiences to the ones you've had! Come check it out and join in on the discussion and get some support to overcome this from a great group of guys!
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Re: Poll: Pornography Use

Postby Mastodon » Fri Apr 03, 2009 2:20 pm

See updated results below.
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Re: Poll: Pornography Use

Postby Mastodon » Wed Apr 15, 2009 8:20 pm

We continue to get responses in, so I'll continue to post the updated results.

If you didn't have a chance to take the survey, you can still do so here (NOTE: Right-click and open the survey in a new window....it does not return you to this page when you are finished.).

I would still be interested to read about any comments or trends that you see in these results.
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Re: Poll: Pornography Use

Postby Mastodon » Tue Apr 21, 2009 10:24 am

I had a big spike in the number of respondents (almost 2x), so I'm updating the results to the survey. Some questions were skewed slightly, but others stayed exactly the same. I also noticed that none of the respondents answered that they viewed porn over a gaming device (wii, playstation, etc.) As I thought about it, that is probably indicative of how much we (older) use a device like that and that younger kids are much more likely to do so. Just a caution if you have young kids around the house.

I'd really like to hear any thoughts or comments you have about the results.

If you didn't have a chance to take the survey, you can still do so here (NOTE: Right-click and open the survey in a new window....it does not return you to this page when you are finished.).
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Re: Poll: Pornography Use

Postby JustGettingBy » Tue Dec 21, 2010 1:13 pm

This might be something that should be on a new thread, but at this point I was just adding it on to this one.

I found a website that I find very good and insightful. I especially like how he tells how almost losing his wife made him treat her better.

http://www.putonthearmoroflight.com/2010/08/how-i-overcome-frustration-in-my-own.html

As good as most all of his posts are, there is one sentence in one that really bothers me. On

http://www.putonthearmoroflight.com/2010/12/reasons-why-your-husband-or-son-use.html

he states:
I want to make one thing very clear at the outset. If you are a wife or mother of a man or boy who uses or has used pornography, I believe, under no circumstances, is it your fault. You are not responsible for that choice nor are you the cause of that choice.

The part I have a bit of a hard time on is the "under no circumstances" "are you responsible". The more righteous part of me agrees 100% and I know when I had a bit of an issue with porn I was the one that looked at things I shouldn't - she didn't MAKE me. It just seems that the "under no circumstances" clause he uses leaves the door open for a wife that has intimacy/sexual issues to read this and say, "I have done nothing at all to contribute to his sin at all - it is 100% his issue."

Maybe the author is tired of dealing with men that want to lay this all on their wife's no matter if she was near perfection - or some wifes that beat themselves up.

I just know that when I was weak and looked at porn in years past, it was almost always when I felt like the most unloved husband and I was about to have a mental breakdown. I can't say why I was able to break free from this temptation for the last half-dozen years. I do better at praying and reading the scriptures. I am just glad I only had a habbit of dabbling for a few minutes, running away from it, giving myself emotional stripes for doing it, and staying away for several months or even a year and then falling again. It has not been from feeling loved by my spouse as our intimacy continues to deteriorate.

In another post he does comment that 2 of the 4 common causes of getting started with porn are: Undermined masculinity and Low self-esteem. I would agree with that, but what was the leading cause of me feeling so bad about myself?

Am I alone in feeling this way - or am I just trying to keep from accepting that my actions are 100% my responsibilty?
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Re: Poll: Pornography Use

Postby Max » Tue Dec 21, 2010 5:46 pm

JustGettingBy,

I think you're describing a situation that is very familiar to a lot of men. I have had very similar history with porn. In fact, almost exactly the experience you describe. I have noticed a very real correlation between my state of mind and my attraction to porn. More self-esteem = less interest in porn. I certainly don't put any blame on my wife, but my self-esteem is definitely affected by how much respect and affection I get from her. On the other hand, the fact that I haven't looked at porn all year also boosts my self-esteem - so it seems like this self-feeding spiral behavior can move in either direction, good or bad

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Re: Poll: Pornography Use

Postby i80 » Tue Mar 01, 2011 4:09 pm

I believe that immorality causes bad marriages rather than the other way around. Most people with these problems had them before they were married (even the poll in this thread proves that). We all believed that marriage would cure us, and for a time it may have seemed to, but sooner or later we returned to our bad habits. Not due to our marriage specifically, but just due to life in general, of which our marriage was now a part.
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Re: Poll: Pornography Use

Postby zookie » Mon Apr 04, 2011 11:44 pm

Hi!
I think this poll is for people who have a problem with porn, but I decided to take it anyway.

To answer the questions in the pornography poll:
1. Active member
2. Female
3. Wrong under any circumstance
4. Yes
5. 11-14 years old
6. Other: found some magazines behind our garage
7. None
8. Shame, depressed, repentant (and one that is not there: Disgusting and dirty. Sex after viewing porn was not fulfilling, even with physical pleasure)
9. Many years ago
10. None for a long time, but what I've seen are stories and videos on the internet and magazines.
11. N.A.
12. No
13. No
14. I guess now I've discussed it with this forum and my husband. That's all.
15. No
16. N.A.
17. Sure! If it's just between the two of you. I personally wouldn't want to watch us, but whatever.
18. No
19. No. Never.
20. Too many options, but suffice it to day that underwear/swimwear ads, line drawings, how to manuals and such are not porn.
21. I repented and won't be participating in it again.

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Re: Poll: Pornography Use

Postby bulbi1152 » Fri Jul 31, 2015 11:50 pm

Need some help with my porn it's going to get me in jail and divorce court
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